I saw an ad about puppy mills today. Surfing the website to find out more,
I became so sad. I had heard about them, of course, but never "peeped" inside one. The pictures on the site allowed me to do this.
And to think that there are some within cycling distance of my home. I want to go there and rescue all the poor bitches (and the sires, even though their lot is no where near as pathetic and heart wrenching).
Society is a victim of its own success - but in this case, the victims are the breeding bitches - and the runts who are left behind to replenish the cages when a poor soul expires.
I shall take a silent moment for them this weekend.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
"You see, I've learned that just because you become a mom, it doesn't mean you're ever grown up enough to stop needing a mother of your own." Mother Nurture. From Chicken Soup for the Soul: New Moms By Katrina Rehme Hatch.
As my daughter would say - "now you are being emo."
But I feel I have to put down my Point of Prue on the closing line of a story I read - quoted above.
Have I really become so insensitive to myself that, as I read that, I refuted it immediately?
I don't feel grown up enough,ever, but I don't need a mother of my own and I haven't for the last 35 years.
I have survived many daunting tasks without feeling the need for one:
my father's death, separation, marriage into an alien culture and religion in a country far from home, the birth of two gorgeous people, my son and daughter, a women's cancer scare, a long career, job losses, searches and new starts, guiding two people through childhood into their teenage years to keep them happy, balanced and able (my daughter would say I did this badly, of course, if anyone were to ask her), marriage issues, daily tasks of running a household, pet births, lives and deaths .... the list goes on.
But then I wonder, if I had needed (or been able to have) a mother's love and guidance through my life this far, how different would it have been? Would I have made different choices, taken different paths, lead and guided some other way? Would I have done it better or worse?
In the end, I am happy knowing I have done my best alone. Happy that I didn't feel that I needed a mother. Happy with my choices and actions.
Now ... if only I could feel grown up enough too.
As my daughter would say - "now you are being emo."
But I feel I have to put down my Point of Prue on the closing line of a story I read - quoted above.
Have I really become so insensitive to myself that, as I read that, I refuted it immediately?
I don't feel grown up enough,ever, but I don't need a mother of my own and I haven't for the last 35 years.
I have survived many daunting tasks without feeling the need for one:
my father's death, separation, marriage into an alien culture and religion in a country far from home, the birth of two gorgeous people, my son and daughter, a women's cancer scare, a long career, job losses, searches and new starts, guiding two people through childhood into their teenage years to keep them happy, balanced and able (my daughter would say I did this badly, of course, if anyone were to ask her), marriage issues, daily tasks of running a household, pet births, lives and deaths .... the list goes on.
But then I wonder, if I had needed (or been able to have) a mother's love and guidance through my life this far, how different would it have been? Would I have made different choices, taken different paths, lead and guided some other way? Would I have done it better or worse?
In the end, I am happy knowing I have done my best alone. Happy that I didn't feel that I needed a mother. Happy with my choices and actions.
Now ... if only I could feel grown up enough too.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Friendship
What is a good friend?
One who knows you need them, without you having to ask.
One who doesn't always contradict you.
One who supports your decisions. Helping you make the right ones.
One who tells you the truth, rather than what you want to hear.
One who can slip into your life seamlessly, whether you last met yesterday or years ago.
One who can laugh and cry with you ....
The list goes on.
Once you have found a good friend, you won't lose them.
But you must treasure them.
One who knows you need them, without you having to ask.
One who doesn't always contradict you.
One who supports your decisions. Helping you make the right ones.
One who tells you the truth, rather than what you want to hear.
One who can slip into your life seamlessly, whether you last met yesterday or years ago.
One who can laugh and cry with you ....
The list goes on.
Once you have found a good friend, you won't lose them.
But you must treasure them.
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Kittens
I have always wondered what a collection of kittens is called - today I found out : a kendle or kindle of kittens.
Actually, a check with an authority on the subject of collective nouns reveals a few terms, beyond the obvious litter, and some for cats and wild cats too. Have a gander -
I think they are so appropriate - a clutter of cats, a destruction of cats - wonderful terms. The only one I have issue with is 'a nuisance of cats' - and for house cats at that! How can house cats possibly be a nuisance? Only if their human guardians are neglectful would they be a nuisance, imho.
Actually, a check with an authority on the subject of collective nouns reveals a few terms, beyond the obvious litter, and some for cats and wild cats too. Have a gander -
| clowder | of | cats |
| clutter | of | cats |
| glaring | of | cats |
| pounce | of | cats |
| dout | of | cats (house cats) |
| nuisance | of | cats (house cats) |
| kendle | of | cats (kittens) |
| kindle | of | cats (kittens) |
| litter | of | cats (kittens) |
| destruction | of | cats (wild cats) |
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Negative energy
I can't understand people who spend their energy on negative thoughts, comments, attitudes as a permanent way of conducting themselves.
Sure, we all have our down moments. Ying and yang; balance is necessary.
But why go through your day finding the negative in everything and everyone?
It drains you, it drains them. Always seeing the "glass half empty" as opposed to "half full" must be a drain on them and surely is for everyone they affect.
A colleague once told me to leave them be, not to take on their monkey. Sometimes that is easier to say than do. But I am learning how to deflect negativity and stay centred and upbeat, most of the time.
For as they say "smile and the whole world smiles with you."
Now, doesn't that feel better?
Have a happy day :)
Sure, we all have our down moments. Ying and yang; balance is necessary.
But why go through your day finding the negative in everything and everyone?
It drains you, it drains them. Always seeing the "glass half empty" as opposed to "half full" must be a drain on them and surely is for everyone they affect.
A colleague once told me to leave them be, not to take on their monkey. Sometimes that is easier to say than do. But I am learning how to deflect negativity and stay centred and upbeat, most of the time.
For as they say "smile and the whole world smiles with you."
Now, doesn't that feel better?
Have a happy day :)
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