Negative energy

I can't understand people who spend their energy on negative thoughts, comments, attitudes as a permanent way of conducting themselves.
Sure, we all have our down moments. Ying and yang; balance is necessary.
But why go through your day finding the negative in everything and everyone?
It drains you, it drains them. Always seeing the "glass half empty" as opposed to "half full" must be a drain on them and surely is for everyone they affect.
A colleague once told me to leave them be, not to take on their monkey. Sometimes that is easier to say than do. But I am learning how to deflect negativity and stay centred and upbeat, most of the time.
For as they say "smile and the whole world smiles with you."
Now, doesn't that feel better?
Have a happy day :)

Language lament

When did we allow new words to complicate our English language? When did "memorize" replace "learn" or "remember", "have a dialogue" replace "talk" and what does "normalize" mean?
Why did we allow it?
Is it that American-speak became cool? And if so, why are schools who use a British curriculum using such words in the classroom?
Call me archaic, but every time I see or hear these words, and there are many more than I cite here, I cringe.
I long for the time when English is simplified again.
Question is, will it ever be?

The Power of Thank You

Consider those two short words, and the power they hold.
Have you ever done something for someone, either spontaneously or upon request, only to receive no word of thanks? How did that make you feel? Used, taken for granted, pissed off? And yet, imagine how you would have felt if those two little words, thank and you,  had reached your ears. Elated, ready to help again, right?
Never forget their power. Use them always. Sincerely, of course. And you will be rewarded with thanks in return.
Thank you for reading.

Lying

Now I know that we all tell little white lies every now and then, and my Point of Prue on this is, that a little white lie, every now and then, is a good thing; but only when used judiciously. It can protect the innocent. It can boost a soul. It can prevent unpleasant incidents. It can be very useful.

However, I do have to say that lying is bad. There is no way out once you start. One lie leads to another. And that other leads to yet another. And very soon you are living in a totally unreal world and you have to be very, very, smart to remember what lies you have told and to whom, so that you can perpetuate them. And there is no way back.

It is better never to have told the first lie.

Nail Biting

I am a nail biter. My POP is that it is rather like being an alcoholic; although you may be “dry”, one little bite and way-hey, off you go again!

So I say, be always on your guard! That little snag in the nail, cut it off quickly, before the urge to tear at it, twiddle with it, bite it, chew it and roll it around your mouth, overcomes you. 

And there will be many snags as you come off nail-biting, because your nails are very weak from continuous biting and any little yank can snag it.

For parents of nail biters; yes, my son is a nail biter too; I recommend that you be patient. 

No amount of nagging, bitter “stop-biting” paint, hitting, slapping or privilege withdrawals will stop it.

The person doing it is the only one who can stop it.

You can help by trying to talk through their insecurities. 

(I put that in plural knowledgeably; it is never one problem, but an accumulation of many.) 

By being a listening ear without judging. 

I say try, as likely they are too shy or insecure to actually share what it is with you, or be able to identify it.

But patience, love and showing you care, will overcome it in the end. 

There will be relapses as challenges are faced; work through them.

And once you see nails; yes, that glorious white part that grows three-quarters of the way up the finger that is taken for granted by many people; HEAP on the praise, and keep it up so that the nasty, nervous habit is kept under control.

Bouncing Back

There is a saying that bad things happen in threes – three strikes and you are out.

Rejections, therefore, need to come in threes. 

The fourth is merely a new group of three.

And so on, until an acceptance arrives.

To bounce back continually requires total commitment to the belief that one’s cup is half full.

That good things happen to good people. Come to people who wait.

There are no end of morale boosting sayings to help bolster one’s mood.

My writing group asked me how do I handle rejections.

My Point of Prue is to take each rejection as a challenge, to do it better next time, to learn from it.

Be it a story, an articel, a job, a partner, an idea, my principle is the same; smile and the world will smile with me.

Eventually!

Divorce

I guess the time has come for me to lay down my Point of Prue on this subject. Timely cos there was an article in today's paper talking about the suffering a little child was going through with divorced parents. As my opinion is so far off this, I felt I had to share it.

Firstly, let me say that I disagree wholeheartedly with parents who resolve to “stay together” for the sake of the children. The children are not fooled; they know when their parents have stopped being a loving couple. They pick up on the hostile environment. They worry who they should side with, or who they should try to protect. They worry about things that kids should not have to worry about, just because they are, often, asked not to. And, in a violent environment, well that wrong scenario should be obvious to anyone. 

Yes, it will be painful for the kids once the divorce happens, but at least they are free from the trap that a loveless home has them in. Free to repair the damage of the heart, the soul and the senses. 

So set them free.

Secondly, I say that any woman staying in a home where there is no love is doing no service to herself. She may feel the martyr. She will eventually come to abhor that role. 

She may feel like a one-man show, running the household and the family. She will also come to resent that role. She must eventually sort for herself that, after the initial readjustment period, she will be a happier soul once set free.

Yes – I could be biased! But I am biased from seeing this from not just my own family, but many others too. Divorce is difficult. But denial is worse, all round.